Anonymous asked: do you and tyler get along well after you have sex ? i feel like all it does it cause fights for me and my bf .
Hmm, good question! Usually sex brings people closer and more connected. However, it does not solve your problems. Maybe you’re fighting because there’s something bothering you before you have sex and it carries over until afterwards. Sex won’t solve anything. Being more “connected” won’t solve anything either. It just makes your feelings towards that person stronger and everything 10x more emotional. If you’re fighting because of the sex itself, maybe you should talk to him about what’s wrong. Don’t make him feel bad; just be honest. If you’re having sex, you should feel comfortable enough with him to tell him what you like and don’t like!
+Anonymous asked: did it hurt to lose your virginity?
Nooo, not really actually. Some people it does though! Just take it slow and if it hurts either work through it or make him pull out if it’s really discomforting!
+Anonymous asked: I've never kissed a boy before and I'm scared of being a bad kisser. Help!
Practice does make perfect but as long as you don’t think so much about what you’re doing and follow the other person’s lead it will be fine! Start slow and keep your mouth closed until the other person starts to open! And follow what they do so they aren’t caught off-guard! And don’t tell them you haven’t kissed before because if you do, they’re going to be thinking about it the whole time and finding things that you may do wrong!
+Anonymous asked: i go to another school so i dont know you personally but i heard about your blog. i just dont know what to do, none of my friends fully seem to understand. i made a dumb mistake. i had sex with a random guy, he wasnt my first but im 15 and hes 19. it was a drunk night and previously i told him no, i dont want to have sex. after coming up with plenty of excuses that he had an answer to each, we had sex. he didnt have to hold me down or anything but i previously said no. so it cant ( cont...)
+Anonymous asked: be rape right? i know very little about him, and have no way of contacting him again. it was a few months ago but i still am so broken. i played it off as nothing, not bothering me but it does so much. i dont know what to do, im not the same and i havent been totally happy since. every time i smell someone with the same cologne i feel so sick to my stomach. im falling apart but it was my fault because it was my choice so these are my consequences i guess.
I am so sorry that you had to go through that :( But to be really honest here, I don’t think you were 100% against it at the time. You’ve had sex before this guy and it takes two to tango. Yes, you guys may have been drunk but if you had some sense as to what was going on, you could have gotten up and walked away. When he led you away to wherever you went, you knew that stuff was going to happen. I just really hope it was with a condom, considering you don’t know much about this guy! You are 15 so you’re frontal lobes aren’t even fully developed yet, thus making your decision making as far as adulthood is concerned kind of blurry. Mixing alcohol into the situation doesn’t make things much better :( What he did is technically considered rape because he is of legal age.. I don’t see why you can’t contact him again. If it really meant that much, you could try and get connections to him considering you knew some people at the party, I’m assuming? It’s alright to feel broken inside. Sex is a big deal and a lot of people just take it lightly these days when it’s not. Your emotions are heightened so much after you do it with someone, whether you are in love with them or not. The first step to moving past this is to forgive yourself. God didn’t keep him in your life for a reason! Just accept that it was a mistake that you made and you still love yourself and God still loves you just the same <3 I know the feeling you get when you smell the cologne, its the worst :( Keep your head held high because I’m sure a beautiful girl and you’ll end up with somebody who respects you and cares about you, and I hope that your relationship can grow into a special one where you can have sex and feel safe <33 I’m always here to talk to!
+Anonymous asked: all my friends aer having sex and i feel left behind. i know i shouldnt but when everyone is talking about it, i wanna know what they are feeling and have that with someone. it would be dumb for me to have sex now, so how can i understand im gonna do it eventually?
Yes, you are right. It would be kind of dumb to have sex just to have sex. Good catch! Just know that things are going to work out in your favor one day! The day will come and it will be with somebody who is special and who you truly have feelings for! Don’t feel left behind! It’s actually a good thing! When you have sex, you’ll feel prepared because you’ll learn some things from your friends! Look at it as an exclusive learning experience that they never got but you did!
+Anonymous asked: my girlfriend is really uncomfortable with the fact that ive had sex before and she hasnt, is there anything i can do to make her feel better?
Ohhh, that’s a toughie :( She wants to share the experience with you! Make her feel special by explaining to her that you’re with her now and that it’s special to you too because its her. Emphasize how much you like her and just have a conversation. Sometimes talking is so much more dynamic than we think it to be. Let her talk things out, but she needs to realize that what’s done is done and she can’t control it now. Give her two options - you either never have sex or you grow together and create a bond strong enough to diminish those fears. You need to grow into your relationship together and just need to make her comfortable in all situations, not just in this one! When she learns to trust you and simply get over the fact that she cannot do anything about it, things will straighten themselves out. Time heals all wounds!
+Anonymous asked: my boyfriend and i are planning on having sex tomorrow. it's my first time and i want it to be special, like any girl would... but i heard a lot of women can't orgasm during sex. i'm afraid i'm going to be REALLY disappointed my first time if it hurts or if i can't cum. what can i do to make it enjoyable and good?
First of all, don’t plan it all out. Don’t have expectations for yourself because as soon as they aren’t met, you’ll be disappointed! Sex for the first time isn’t going to be like a movie and all sweet and beautiful. A lot of women can’t orgasm during sex because they truly don’t know what an orgasm is and don’t know how to lead up to one. My rule? Fake it until you make it. There are other ways to figure out how to orgasm, but sex for the first time isn’t a good place to start. It’ll probably hurt and you probably won’t hit the major O just because you’re really anxious/thinking about it/uncomfortable, etc. Use a condom (OBVIOUSLY) and just relax. Think about your reaction AFTER you’re finished because you’ll probably start freaking out during it which isn’t good! If something goes wrong, just laugh it off! Sex should be enjoyable, not something you stress about! Anything else feel free message me again, and most importantly sty safe, and have fun :)))
+Anonymous asked: Does cum taste like discharge from a woman?
Never tasted discharge from a woman, but I’m going to assume that it does not. I would not recommend tasting yourself and your bodily fluids that are purposely discarded from your body and then try to relate it to what semen tastes like.
+Anonymous asked: What do u personally do w cum?
You can spit or you can swallow.
Therefore, one of the above.